Interested in Starting a TCF Chapter?
If your area is not currently served by a chapter of The Compassionate Friends, you may be able to start one, a truly gratifying experience. For information on how to go about starting a chapter, visit 
Forming Chapters.

Online Support Community 
If you are seeking grief support on the web, The Compassionate Friends Online Support Community (OSC) gives you the opportunity to meet with others who are also grieving the death of a child.

There are OSC rooms for: Parents/Grandparents; Siblings; Pregnancy/Infant loss; Bereaved Two Years and Under; Bereaved Two Years and Over; Men Only; No Surviving Children; and Survivors of Suicide. 
All rooms have trained moderators. 
OSC: More than just a chat!
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Grief in the News 
Did you know that TCF's national website has a "Grief in the News" page  that links with more than 100 stories published in the media? To view the stories, visit "Grief in the News." 
Remember when clicking on a link below that takes you to the National Site,  You  must click on the Return Arrow up in the Left Hand corner of your window to come back to this page in the Pekin's Web Site...  Thank You.
Compassionate Friends Brochure Program Needs Your Support! 
Did you know that you have the opportunity to sponsor a TCF brochure in memory of a special child in your life or that of someone you know?

TCF currently has 31 brochures on many different topics related to the death of a child. All brochures are constantly reviewed and updated. When brochures are reprinted, 5,000 are printed and sponsors help to fund this important program.

Learn more about this wonderful brochure program and how you can support it visit the brochure section on the TCF website. A brochure sponsorship is $500 and a sponsorship line showing that the brochure was sponsored by you in loving memory of a specific child will be included. You may also request to be put on the waiting list for sponsorship of a specific brochure.

 [Brochure Sponsorship Form]

View the complete line of Compassionate Friends brochures.

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National Office Now Has Facebook Site!

Social media is the new forefront of communications with those of similar interests and TCF is proud to announce the addition of a Facebook Page with which the National Organization can communicate information instantly with members. TCF's Facebook Page premiered in June and its fan base grows daily--now at more than 1100. We hope you will visit our Facebook Page, review the many posts we and our members have made and become a Fan. It's easy to do, even if you have never belonged to Facebook. Click on the word Facebook.   We look forward to your input!
January 29, 2020 marks the 51st anniversary of The Compassionate Friends worldwide. TCF/USA has been serving bereaved families for more than 30 years and with your support, we'll be around for many many more years. If you're not familiar with the history of The Compassionate Friends and its jump across the ocean, we hope you'll take a few minutes to read "The Story of The Compassionate Friends."   

Your Donation to TCF Can Be Doubled!

The Compassionate Friends Board of Directors is kicking off TCF's holiday appeal through a special donation that has created a Matching Grant of $30,000. Every board member has contributed to this Challenge Grant and we are asking for your support so we can double this amount (through the match) and go into the new year with the funds necessary to support the many programs provided nationally by the organization. All donations are tax deductible.

"This is a wonderful opportunity for us to go into the new year with the possibility of being able to maintain most if not all of our programs despite the current economic times," says Patricia Loder, executive director of The Compassionate Friends.

You can make a donation here and under "comments" mark "matching grant donation." Your  support is greatly appreciated!
TCF Wins $25,000 in Chase Community Giving Program/Finishes 53rd Out of 500,000 Eligible Charities!

With less than $1 million income annually, The Compassionate Friends may be a relatively small nonprofit when compared to many of the other 500,000 charities in the Chase Community Giving $5 million Challenge that ended last week. But with a big heart, the organization's members and friends ended up voting TCF 53rd out of the program's original 500,000 eligible nonprofits.

"Thank you so much to all those who voted for The Compassionate Friends in the first or second rounds," said executive director Patricia Loder. "And, for those who could not find the strength to vote at this difficult time of the year, we truly understand."

In the first round, our organization was awarded $25,000 as a top 100 votegetter among the eligible nonprofits (under $10 million annual income). In the second round, TCF finished a week of voting January 22 at 53rd. While TCF was not successful in receiving an additional award either in the 2nd Round or in $1 million in discretionary funding awarded by the Chase Community Giving board, the original $25,000 award helped tremendously since TCF, as with most nonprofits, has had an unfortunate drop in donations.

Thank you to all our members, friends, and supporters! We couldn't have done it without you!!

Also, thank you to the following companies and organizations for supporting TCF in the Chase Community Giving Program by sending out an e-newsletter or e-mail blast in support of TCF:

Centering Corporation
Cherokee Caskets
Fusion 92
Keep Kids Alive Drive 25
Healing the Grieving Heart
Heavilin Herald
Hospice Foundation of America
National Funeral Directors Association
Pfizer Corporation
Twinless Twins
Hospice Foundation of America Webinars 
Help Children Cope with Grief and Loss

Hospice Foundation of America (HFA) is presenting a webinar series, hosted by Kenneth Doka, Sr., Bereavement Consultant to HFA, on helping children and adolescents deal with grief and loss.  
Over 1.8 million children are dealing with the loss of a sibling. To learn more, call HFA at 800-854-3402 or visit webinar information.
Shop iGive 

When you join and name The Compassionate Friends as your designated charity, every purchase you make from their online mall with more than 700 stores, will help The Compassionate Friends. As much as 26% of your purchase price will be donated to TCF. In addition, $5 will be donated to TCF for every person who registers and then makes a purchase online within 30 days.

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When bereaved parents are asked their greatest fear, you're likely to hear they're most afraid that their child will be forgotten.

The Compassionate Friends is always seeking new ways to better serve our membership. With that thought in mind, we've struck a partnership that will allow you a way to permanently remember your child, sibling, or grandchild with an online Memorial Website. 

When I viewed some existing memorial websites that had been created by moms, dads, grandparents, and siblings, a sense of peace ran through me as I realized this could truly be a place where I could come to remember my children--to look upon their pictures, read notes from their friends, listen to their favorite music, and reflect upon their importance in my life.

I hope you'll check out some of the remembrance websites and imagine the possibilities.

Patricia Loder
Executive Director
A Memorial Website to Remember A Child, Sibling, or Grandchild  
                                     Makes a Great  Gift!

 The Compassionate Friends is pleased to offer you the opportunity through a partnership with premier Internet memorial website for you, your friends, and family to remember and pay tribute to a special child online. These memorial websites are really easy to make (you can create one in as little as five minutes--or you to be as creative as you wish), giving you a timeless and touching site for you, family, and friends to remember and honor the child you miss, but will always remember.

To review a couple of websites on, created by bereaved parents, please visit (created and sponsored by Blake Harris' Dad) and (created and sponsored by Samantha Davis' Mom). 

When you enter through our portal, a portion of the proceeds from the memorial website you create will go to support The Compassionate Friends and its many national programs designed to aid families going through the natural grieving process following the death of a child. We are currently offering you a FREE 14 day trial and, for a limited time, you'll receive 25% off your first year sponsorship of your site! For more information and to start creating your site, please visit Create a Memorial Website!

You may want to keep in mind that the memorial website you create can make a
make a wonderful gift!

Thank you for taking a moment to learn about these great online memorial websites. We hope you'll use the free 14 day trial and see how easy it is to create a quality online memorial website for a child who will always be loved, missed, and remembered.

The Compassionate Friends   
Apply for TCF Visa Platinum Credit Card and Help Us with $50 First Purchase Bonus!

Designed to promote awareness of the organization and to help as a fundraiser, The Compassionate Friends invites you to apply for your own Compassionate Friends Capital One Platinum Visa Credit Card.

After you've applied, been approved, and made your first purchase, The Compassionate Friends will receive a $50 contribution from Capital One. In addition, as you use the card, TCF will receive a percentage of every purchase. There are three great branded designs to show your support of The Compassionate Friends. When you use one of TCF's designs, every time you pull out your card and make a purchase, someone will learn about The Compassionate Friends. If you prefer, you can custom design your own card with a picture of your child, giving you an opportunity every time you shop to talk about your special child.

For more information on this opportunity to support the organization that has, itself, brought support to so many bereaved families, please visit The Compassionate Friends Visa Card.
The Open to Hope Show
The Open to Hope Show, with the same great hosts has now replaced the popular Healing the Grieving Heart. The web radio show features experts who discuss the many aspects of grief, with a main focus on the death of a child and its effects on the family. Learn more and see details about the June's shows
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 The Compassionate Friends recommends this show as a grief/loss resource.

TCF Foundation provides you the opportunity to help ensure that The Compassionate Friends will always be there. Following are some of the many possible ways you can participate in the foundation’s campaign: 

Click here to learn of the different ways of supporting.

Recently we added a new brochure "To the Newly Bereaved" to the many brochures we have available in support of our membership. To read this brochure, visit  "To the Newly Bereaved". It is also available in Spanish at Para los recién en duelo... Cuando tu hijo o hija muere.
The Compassionate Friends National Office always likes to include information about concurrent Walks to Remember on our national website Walk to Remember at
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Chapter Resources

Many resources are offered through the National Office to aid grieving families and the people who care about them. Please visit the following pages for additional items.

All items are shipped regular mail unless requested differently. If your order is time-sensitive, or is needed for a special occasion, we are happy to work with you to make sure it arrives in plenty of time. Please call the National Office directly at 877.969.0010 to confirm the date your order is needed. Additional shipping charges will apply.

Exclusives Available from National Office

Audio and Video Available

Book & Magazine Exclusives


Chapter Resources

Please Note Love Gift Change of Address:  (2020)
The Compassionate Friends #1525
1500 N. Mayfield Court
Trivoli, IL  61569
Phone Numbers for your support and questions, during this Pandemic times...